sorrow of the millionaire

  the unfortunate millionaire has the responsibility of tremendous wealth without the possibility of enjoying himself more than any ordinary rich man. indeed, in many things he cannot enjoy himself more than many poor men do, nor even so much, for a drum major is better dressed,a trainer's stable lad often rides a better horse; the first—class carriage is shared by office boys taking their young ladies out for the evening;everybody who goes down to brighton for sunday rides in the pullman car; and for what use is it to be able to pay for a peacock's brain sandwich when there is nothing to be had but ham or beef? the injustice of this state of things has not been sufficiently considered. a man with an income of £25 a year can multiply his comfort beyond all calculation by doubling his income. a man with £50 a year can at least quadruple his comfort by doubling his income. probably up to even £250 a year doubled income means doubled comfort. after that the increment of comfort grows less in proportion to the increment of income until a point is reached at which the victim is satiated and even surfeited with everything that money can purchase.

  to expect him to enjoy another hundred thousand pounds because men like money, is exactly as if you were to expect a confectioner's shopboy to enjoy two hours more work a day because boys are fond of sweets. what can the wretched millionaire do that needs a million? does he want a fleet of yachts, a rotten row full of carriages, an army of servants, a whole city of town houses, or a continent for a game preserve? can he attend more than one theatre in one—evening, or wear more than one suit at a time, or digest more meals than his butler? and yet there is no sympathy for this hidden sorrow of plutocracy. the poor alone are pitied. societies spring up in all directions to relieve all sorts of comparatively happy people, but no hand is stretched out to the millionaire,except to beg.in all our dealings with him lies implicit, the delusion that he has nothing to complain of, and that he ought to be ashamed of rolling in wealth whilst others are starving.


  choosing an occupation

  dear sir,

  i am very sorry that the pressure of other occupations has prevented me from sending nearlier reply to your letter. in my opinion a man's first duty is to find a way of supportinghimself, thereby relieving other people of the necessity of supporting him. moreover, thelearning to do work of practical value in the world,in an exact and careful manner, is of itself avery important education,the effects of which make themselves felt in all other pursuits. thehabit of doing that which you do not care about when you would much rather be doingsomething else, is invaluable. it would have saved me a frightful waste of time if i had ever hadit drilled into me in youth. success in any scientific career requires an unusual equipment ofcapacity, industry, and energy. if you possess that equipment, you will find leisure enoughafter your daily commercial work is over, to make an opening in the scientific ranks foryourself. if you don't, you had better stick to commerce.nothing is less to be desired than thefate of a young man who, as the scotch proverb says, in "trying to make a spoon spoils ahorn," and becomes a mere hanger—on in literature or in science, when he might have been auseful and a valuable member of society in other occupations.i think that your father ought tosee this letter.

  yours faithfully,

  t. h. huxley


  dining etiquette when dating

  be sure to make reservations if the restaurant you chose is a fancy or popular one. it's veryembarrassing to show up without reservations and having to wait for a table, leaving very badimpression on your date. also, be sure to check to see if they have a dress code and tell yourdate in advance what to wear.

  when your food arrives, proper dinning etiquette requires you to eat at a moderate pace sothat you have time to talk. a good measure of how fast you should eat is to count 10 secondsbetween each mouthful and it's a bad dining etiquette if you gobble down your food and youspend the rest of the time watching your date eat. don't slurp your soup, smack your lips, orchew with your mouth open. nothing is more unsightly than watching someone talk and chewtheir food at the same time. your napkin should be placed on your lap at all times. don't tuck itinto your belt or use it as a bib. if you have to get up, place it neatly on your seat. wheneating, insert your fork straight in your mouth. don't place your fork in the side of your mouthas it increases the chances of food sliding away, which could be very embarrassing. if you getfood stuck in your mouth don't pick it out with your fingers or fork at the table. excuse yourselfand go to the restroom and get it out with a toothpick. when dinning, keep your eyes on yourdate at all times and try to smile between mouthfuls. occasionally,you should make an effort toshow some interest and ask questions like,"how do you like the beef?" if she needs anything,you are the one who is supposed to flag down the waiter by a gentle wave of the hand untilsomeone notices you.


  stress and relaxation

  it is commonly believed that only rich middle-aged businessmen suffer from stress. in fact anyone may become ill as a result of stress if they experience a lot of worry over a long period and their health is not especially good. stress can be a friend or an enemy: it can warn you that you are under too much pressure and should change your way of life.

  it can kill you if you don't notice the warning signals. doctors agree that it is probably the biggest single cause of illness in the western world. when we are very frightened and worried our bodies produce certain chemicals to help us fight what is troubling us.

  unfortunately, these chemicals produce the energy needed to run away fast from an object of fear, and in modern life that's often impossible. if we don't use up these chemicals, or if we produce too many of them, they may actually harm us. the parts of the body that are most affected by stress are the stomach, heart,skin, head and back.

  stress can cause car accidents, heart attacks, and alcoholism, and may even drive people to suicide. our living and working conditions may put us under stress. overcrowding in large cities, traffic jams, competition for jobs, worry about the future, any big changes in our lives, may cause stress. some british doctors have pointed out that one of britain's worst waves of influenza happened soon after the new coins came into use. also if you have changed jobs or moved house in recent months you are more likely to fall ill than if you haven't. and more people commit suicide in times of inflation. as with all illnesses, prevention is better than cure. if you find you can't relax, it is a sign of danger. "when you're taking work home, when you can't enjoy an evening with friends, when you haven't time for outdoor exercise—that is the time to stop and ask yourself whether your present life really suits you." says one family doctor. " then it's time to join a relaxation class, or take up dancing, painting or gardening."